Did you know that during divorces, the father/child relationship is often undermined? This is why International Men’s Day was not chosen at random. According to the article « journée internationale de l’homme, la gent masculine à l’honneur le 19 novembre » :“International Men’s Day: Celebrating Men on November 19”
« The choice of November 19 was not made by chance. The following day is also the International Day for the Rights of the Child, with which International Men’s Day aligns itself to promote the father/child relationship. A relationship that is severely affected in the event of separation or divorce, as custody is still traditionally granted to the mother.. »
The same article also states :
« In the case of divorce: fathers far less considered
Despite reforms aimed at maintaining the relationship between father and child after a divorce or separation, progress remains slow. Fathers are the biggest losers, as in 73% of cases, the child’s primary residence is set with the mother. The belief that a child should stay with the mother remains deeply rooted in French society — and even in the minds of fathers themselves. While some opt for shared custody, the idea of having primary custody is unthinkable for most. »
While touspourchacune.com recognizes that a mother’s presence is important for a child’s development, it is important to remain cautious regarding the near-automatic assignment of custody to the mother. It must be said: some women misuse this privilege out of a desire for revenge against their ex-husband. Others are not capable of assuming full custody but feel obligated due to cultural pressure, even when it is not in the best interest of the child.
touspourchacune.com (TPC) would like to conclude with this true story : A mother wanted to separate from the father of her children, but she knew he was a good father. Since she was independent and employed, she decided to let him keep the apartment. She could stay with her family. It is often easier for a woman to find new housing, especially when she has children and a job.
To ensure that her children maintained a good relationship with their father — which also allowed her to rest from time to time — she made compromises. But this was only possible because the woman was autonomous and had good family support.This is exactly what TPC wishes for you as well.
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